Sunday, December 21, 2008

Recession Proof Your Job


When tough times come, and I believe they are here, cut backs and layoffs are sometimes unavoidable. Many organizations even get to the point of firing people with no indication if they will ever get their job back. Some, I am sure, are told they cannot come back.

It is easy for us to empathize with each and every employee facing this horrible situation today. Every time I watch the news or read the papers there is news of more layoffs, down sizing, and people losing their jobs. I can understand their pain whenever this happens but think I this is probably the worst time of the year. Most people are spending more than they make to meet monthly obligations. Many others spend well over their monthly budget and take nearly the whole next year to pay off these extra bills.

I have been thinking and wondering, have you ever thought about the process of cutting expenses from the business leaders point of view?

Try to envision yourself as the CEO, even better, the CFO, and you face a severe budget shortfall if you don't cut expenses. Where do you start? How deep do you go? Is there any reserves to tap into? Where can I make the deepest cuts without jeopardizing the companies long term sustainability? There are many questions to ask before a devastating procedure like this can start. Unfortunately, many leaders don't even ask. They just start hacking away.

I would start with operations and processes that do not involve people. Of course, many of the so called fringe benefits would have to go first. No matter what their steps are, eventually they will get to their people.

How do you prioritize your people? Do you rank them by their input to the team? How about their output (or dollars)? How about what has already been invested in them by the company? When you think about this, ranking people has always been a part of our society. Look at coaching, a good coach must rank his players in order of ability. This is how a starting lineup is picked.

Any business leader worth their salt can do the exact same thing with their employees. You have top performers, mediocre performers. and poor performers. Who do you think should be cut first? Certainly not the top performers.

So the real question is how to get into the "top performers" ranking?

It's a simple concept. Be the best employee in the company. If asked to work until 5pm, work until 5:30. If you need to accomplish a task in two weeks, make sure it is done in 13 days or less. If a volunteer is needed for a difficult task, be the first to raise your hand.

In other words, be a person of great character. If you are dependable, responsible, trustworthy, diligent, punctual, and thorough, I can promise you one thing. You will not be the first person released. Take a free tour of our character quality library. Click ALERTNESS!

Wednesday, December 17, 2008

Avoid Causing Anger in Others


10 Simple Steps
  1. Encourage Harmony - Discord among authorities, though often unseen, will be sensed by employees, creating tension. Maintain unity to prevent frustration caused by divided loyalties.
  2. Maintain One Standard - Have a clearly defined character-based standard for behavior and have an equally clear standard for correction.
  3. Discipline With Consistency - Don't allow personal preferences or emotions to influence correction. You need to focus on attitudes, not just actions.
  4. Admit Wrongdoing and Seek Forgiveness - It takes a strong person to admit weakness. Keep yourself accountable in order to stay focused.
  5. Encourage the Good - We all have a desire to feel needed and appreciated. Employees will react if you constantly criticize but never look for good.
  6. Accept Leadership Responsibilities - Realize that as a leader you will be watched. Demonstrate better character than you expect from others.
  7. Give Priority to Listening - Don't comment, censure, or correct when others are speaking to you. Be an encouraging listener.
  8. Keep Promises - Ask employees if you have ever broken a promise. It is better not to promise than to promise and fail to follow through.
  9. Respect Your Employees - Realize the value of each of your employees. Invest in them as people, not just representatives of the company.
  10. Have Realistic Expectations - Excellence is good; perfectionism is not. Never expect your employees to do anything that you have not already done or will not do with them.
Copyright 2008 - Used with permission! Character First! Basic Implementation Seminar - for more information visit Character First Training

Thursday, December 11, 2008

Overcoming Anger!


Uncontrolled anger is one of the chief factors contributing to the breakdown of families and ultimately the weakening of nations.
In the workplace, it causes accidents, high turnover, and low productivity. When employers express anger toward employees, they destroy the desire to achieve.

What is Anger?
Anger is a strong passion or emotion of displeasure or antagonism. It is excited by a real or supposed injury to one’s self or others, or by the intent to do such injury.
• It is a major destroyer of relationships.
• It has its source in a deep-rooted problem.
• It is often used to control or manipulate.

Anger will never be conquered as long as we justify it, explain it away, or blame others for it.

Wednesday, December 3, 2008

Ten Leadership Lessons From Ronald Reagan


“In his lifetime, Ronald Reagan was such a cheerful and invigorating presence that it was easy to forget what daunting historic tasks he set himself. He sought to mend America's wounded spirit, to restore the strength of the free world and to free the slaves of Communism.” That's how Lady Thatcher started her great eulogy of Ronald Reagan, summarizing in one sentence his personal qualities and his great achievements. This combination of highly admirable personality and great accomplishments has made Ronald Reagan the most popular American President in the past half a century and one of the most important American Presidents in history. So what were the leadership qualities that made it possible for Ronald Reagan to achieve such a status in American history and in the hearts of the American people, including his political opponents?

1- The Messenger, Not The Message
A key aspect of leadership that is often forgotten is the fact that people will follow a leader only if they liked him or her personally, before even considering the message, or the mission, that the leader is proclaiming. Reagan was a likable fellow. He was described by people who worked for him as a kind, humble, and decent person who was void of meanness and pettiness. To become an effective leader you must start with yourself, and do the necessary self examination that leads you to refine your personal qualities and strengthen your character. Without this, nothing will work.

2- Have A Great Vision
“America is too great for small dreams,” said Ronald Reagan. And this is also true for great leaders, who won’t be satisfied with small dreams. Instead of trying to get just an edge over the Soviet Union, Reagan went after the total dismantling of the “Evil Empire.” And he succeeded. If you want to be a great leader, ask yourself and your team: What is the greatest dream we can possibly have for this organization?

3- Communicate Your Vision To Gain Followers
Having a vision of what needs to be done is crucial for a leader. But what truly distinguishes a leader from others who might also have the same vision is the ability to communicate this vision in such a compelling way as to attract followers who become excited about the vision and commit to achieving it. Napoleon declared that “The leader is a dealer in hope.” To deal in hope you must be able to package it, describe it, and sell it to others so that it becomes theirs. Communication skills, therefore, is crucial to the effectiveness of leaders. Reagan was not just a good communicator, but was called, “The Great Communicator.” He was able to articulate complex issues in simple, often visual, ways that enable people to understand them and get excited about them. His most famous application of this was his continuous referring to the United States as The Shining City on the Hill. Who can’t actually ‘see’ this vision and feel good about it?

4- Offer Hope, and Act to Achieve It
Reagan was described as an eternal optimist. He offered Americans a positive, uplifting vision of America and its future. Former President George Bush said of him, “Our friend was strong and gentle. Once he called America hopeful, big hearted, idealistic, daring, decent and fair. That was America and, yes, our friend. And next, Ronald Reagan was beloved because of what he believed. He believed in America so he made it his shining city on a hill. He believed in freedom so he acted on behalf of its values and ideals. He believed in tomorrow so the great communicator became the great liberator.” President George Bush observed, “He came to office with great hopes for America. And more than hopes…Ronald Reagan matched an optimistic temperament with bold, persistent action.” It’s important for leaders to hold an optimistic view of the world, so that they can stir the aspiration of people who will then follow with enthusiasm to achieve great accomplishments.

5- Lead, Don’t Micromanage
A key problem many leaders fall into is when they micromanage everything. This inability to delegate not only deprives the work being done from the contributions of the entire team, which are always better than those of one person, but it also de-motivate the talented people working around the leader. By not having the freedom to do things themselves in their own ways, they lose interest in their work and become mere robots doing only what they are told. In dictatorial regimes like the old Soviet Union, the results have been dramatic loss of productivity, quality, initiative, and innovation. The collapse of the Soviet Union was the natural result. A company can suffer the same fate if a leader is too managerial and doesn't create a participatory culture at work.

6- Don’t Become a Prisoner of Your Own Perceptions
Even though Reagan called the Soviet Union the Evil Empire, this did not prevent him from negotiating and dealing openly with the leaders of that Empire, following his policy of Trust But Verify. He proved to be flexible in his thinking and was able to free himself from the limits of a rigid dogma and adjust his views of his enemies, turning them into partners in building world peace. To be an effective leader, be careful not to become a prisoner of your own rigid perceptions of others and the world. Adhere closely to your core human values but open up your mind to different interpretations, views, and possibilities.

7- Admit Mistakes, Change Course, and Move On
Upon facing a devastating blow to his policy of intervention in Lebanon with the attack on the barracks that killed 240 American soldiers, Reagan quickly realized the futility of his policy, ordered the withdrawal of troops from Lebanon, and abandoned his policy of intervention there. Another president, perhaps with less flexibility and more ego, would have possibly started a war there to retaliate the incident and demonstrate America’s strength. America could have been mired in un-necessary fighting there for years, perhaps with thousands of casualties. Reagan’s quick change of course enabled him to move on to achieve greater goals, such as the eventual demise of the Soviet Union. Leaders understand that strength requires restraint. A great leader is one who knows how to manage both his weaknesses and his strengths, and those of the country, or the organization, he is leading.

8- Use Humor
Reagan used humor almost all the time. He used it because he himself was ‘a jolly good fellow’ as the song says, and because he knew that the smile that humor generates is the shortest distance between two minds. And he skillfully used humor to avoid answers that create animosity and problems, as well as to win crucial arguments in difficult public encounters. In attacking the US Congress’ delaying of turning his policies into laws he said, “I have wondered at times what the Ten Commandments would have looked like if Moses had run them through the U.S. Congress.” Some of his humorous comments reveal how he did not take himself too seriously even as President of the most powerful country on earth. “I have left orders to be awakened at any time in case of national emergency, even if I'm in a cabinet meeting,” he said.

9- Stay Human
In his eulogy of Ronal Reagan, Former President George Bush relayed the following story, “Days after being shot, weak from wounds, he spilled water from a sink, and entering the hospital room aides saw him on his hands and knees wiping water from the floor. He worried that his nurse would get in trouble. The Good Book says humility goes before honor, and our friend had both, and who could not cherish such a man? Other people who worked closely with Reagan told of how he used to greet everyone he met with respect and generosity of spirit, whether that person was a president of another country or a waitress at a dinner he attended. He was pleasant and gracious to all without regard to rank, title, position, or any other social status. A leader must not feel he is above the people he leads, but that he is their servant. That how Reagan felt and acted. And that’s why people followed him lovingly.

10- Lead a Balanced Life
One of Reagan’s admirable traits was his total devotion to his wife Nancy. In his eulogy of Ronald Reagan, President George W. Bush said, “In a life of good fortune, he valued above all the gracious gift of his life, Nancy. During his career, Ronald Reagan passed through a thousand crowded places, but there was only one person, he said, who could make him lonely by just leaving the room.” Reagan was often accused of not working hard enough as a President, taking a lot of time off to be with his family and his horses at his ranch. Using humor to deflect this accusation, while confirming it, he said, "It's true hard work never killed anybody, but I figure, why take the chance?" Reagan was a great example of a leader who kept his life in balance. He did not allow the demands of his work, even at the highest office in the world, to overtake his obligations to his family. In this regard, management consultant Stephen Covey writes of the importance of doing “First Things First.” Leaders who keep a healthy balance between work and play, and have a role for family and friends in their daily lives, not only succeed as great leaders, but also manage to lead a happy life.

Thursday, November 27, 2008

What Qualties Make Up a Great Leader?




I think there are many different views on what makes a great leader
but I do believe there are some core qualities. Some of those are:





  • Attentiveness vs. Distraction
Showing the worth of a person or task by giving
my undivided concentration
Not just waiting for our turn to talk!
  • Boldness vs. Fearfulness
Confidence that what I have to say or do is true,
right, and just
No more memos to the entire team just to address one persons failure!
  • Compassion vs. Indifference
Investing whatever is necessary to heal the hurts
of others
It's not about taking care of number one, YOU!
  • Decisiveness vs. Procrastination
The ability to recognize key factors and finalize
difficult decisions
When you come to a fork in the road, take it! Yogi Berra
  • Enthusiasm vs. Apathy
Expressing joy in each task as I give it my
best effort
Stop with the soar faces, please!
  • Patience vs. Restlessness
Accepting a difficult situation without giving a
deadline to remove it
Stop stressing out people!

  • Truthfulness vs. Deception
Earning future trust by accurately reporting
past facts
A lie can take a life-time to repair!

Please comment and add your thoughts!

Thursday, November 20, 2008

They say that people join companies and leave managers


This is very much a true fact so it becomes that much more important to ask What makes a great manager?

If you are a manager and you are not asking what makes a great manager, then you are missing out on some key information that will make your job easier and your employees job easier and more fulfilling.

Think of how much easier your job as a manager would be if you could retain key employees and avoid training new employees. If you can win the confidence and respect of your employees by asking and delivering on what makes a great manager you'll have an easier life and your employees will love you for it. So what makes a great manager?


A great manager listens first then responds: Your employees will want to tell you ideas, concerns, information and general day to day chatter. Avoid distractions and interrupting even if you know the answer let your employee have their say. Even if you are prepared to disagree, let your employee finish their communication. People have a natural drive to be heard and allowing employees to finish their statements goes a long way in building respect.


A great manager recognizes positive actions and efforts: When your employees complete something successfully or show initiative recognize it. This take discipline as its easy enough just to see what's been done and say to yourself "good". If you notice that turn it around and thank your employee for that accomplishment. Many who know what makes a great manager know that most employees are not motivated by sheer money. They need recognition even if it is not public. Great managers know that employees feed off acknowledgment that their job is being done well.


A Great Manager Shares The Wealth: Many managers receive bonus compensation based on the efforts of their team members. If as a manager you are compensated based on the efforts of others reward them each time you receive your bonus. Take them to lunch on "you" so they know you appreciate how their efforts contribute to your own paycheck.


A Great Manager Sets Clear Expectations: Employees should always know what you expect of them. One of the easiest ways to do this is to set deliverable milestones for each employee over a set period of time. Then review the employees performance vs. the milestone or deliverable and discuss ways to improve or congratulate them on a job well done and set new goals.


A Great Manager Provides A Road Map To Success: One of the key things a great manager can do is lay out a roadmap for your employee to follow to be a success. In addition to one on one meetings, a great manager should sit down at least six months prior to a performance review to explain where the employee is at and find out where they want to be and work out a way to get there. Some employees may be satisfied with "good" performance, some will want to achieve a performance review that is above average. It is critical to assist those wanting to outperform with a road map to do so. This can be challenging but is key to developing outstanding employees.


FROM GREATMANAGER.NET

Saturday, November 15, 2008

Can Managers Really Evaluate Their Leadership Today?


In today's market place many managers could care less about evaluating their performance as a leader. There are also managers that would like to receive an honest evaluation, they are just not sure how to get an "accurate" picture.
The days of sitting with your people and asking them these types of questions are over. (here are just a few)
  • are you fulfilled in what you do?
  • am I helping you to reach your full potential?
  • do you believe I care about you as a person?
  • what can I do to your work environment better?
A powerful book titled "The Five Dysfunctions of a Team" states that the foundational dysfunction is a "LACK OF TRUST."
People are tired of being burned after sharing what was on their heart.

Character First! has developed a really neat anonymous way to accomplish what we once took for granted. Their survey is a simple and quick way to ask your people some tough questions.

I sure hope you will take time and try this out.

Sunday, November 9, 2008

State of Jalisco Planning to Become a City of Character


Guadalajara is a welcoming city in the state of Jalisco.







We are excited to assist state government in their pursuit of a community of good character.



The architecture is beautiful and the food out of this world.










Government leadership is excited and ready to get started.

Monday, November 3, 2008

Leadership 101

Well folks, I am back from my Mexico trip and thought I would share a few thoughts that I connected during my trip. I will finish the photo montage in my next post.

Here are the keys to becoming a great leader.
  1. Expect good character from yourself
  2. Fix your faults as soon as you can. We all have character failures (i.e. mistakes) and it is what we do with those failures that makes us a man or woman of integrity. You will also need a solid friend, spouse, or colleague that can share your blind spots,
  3. Learn to appreciate good character in others. Celebrating right choices is a lost art. Typically we share encouraging words after a person dies. Many eulogies are smack full of encouraging stories of a persons character. Sadly, the one needing to hear these words the most is buried under a lot of dirt. We MUST celebrate when they are alive.
  4. Return to number one on a daily basis. Sometimes this is required moment-by-moment.
These key points kept surfacing as I presented in Mexico City, Pachuca, and Guadalajara. I was compelled to share them with you.

Tuesday, October 28, 2008

Character Communities in Mexico










I am currently traveling in Mexico where I just met with leaders (government, business, eduction, and faith sectors) in Mexico City and Pachuca.

It is so refreshing to be with all types of leaders that sense something most be done about the state of character in their communities. We met with both business and government leaders to discuss the importance of making right choices.

The governor of the state could not attend but he
allowed his wife to join the meeting.

Here she is signing an agreement to make a state of character and to lead by example.

The response to a challenge of action was overwhelming. The future is much brighter is we put Character First!

We are very excited to plan a Communities of Character Conference in Mexico next year. We are hoping for late winter or early spring. This conference will cover the unique issues of Latin American countries as well as other countries throughout the world.

Soon we will have more information, visit the Character Cities website.

Tonight we head to Gaudalajara where we will start the planning for the 2009 conference.

Friday, October 24, 2008

No Encouragement = Discouragement


I would like to share a specific example of the destructive force of discouragement.

But first, I think it is critical that we understand something very foundational. You may not think you are critical or discouraging but I am here to tell you, if you are NOT encouraging in your leadership role then you ARE automatically discouraging.

Back to my example: Here is a typical thought when an employee thinks about doing something wrong (work place related).

Many workers' compensation claims are fraudulent. Statistics verify up to 92%! So what does an employee think while perpetrating just such a fraudulent act?

"I have been working here for three years and they just don't appreciate me."

"I go far above the call of duty in my work and I never get a pat on the back or even a thank you."

"I do everything I'm told, come to work on time, fulfill my obligations, I'm honest, and I have a good attitude. Come to work late one time and my manager lays into me like a drill sergeant."

"I work hard, I make my supervisor look good, and I am not a problem employee. Why don't they give me a pay raise?"

To the leaders reading this blog, your lack of encouragement is the seed that festers in the minds of your people and this seed can manifest itself into wrong actions.

Please learn to be an encourager!!

Friday, October 17, 2008

Inconsistently Good???

Here are a few examples of inconsistency.

Leadership Examples:

  • Jump all over an employee for coming to work late right after the 15th time
  • Catch one employee in a lie and deliver severe consequences while catching another employee committing the same infraction and basically slapping their wrist
  • Demand thoroughness in reports while failing to keep employees informed
  • Bark commands out one day and speak softly another day
  • Smile at your leadership in between job interviews
  • Right a negative performance review the day after skipping work to golf

Subordinate Examples:
  • Work hard and go the extra mile when there is something to personally gain and withhold efforts at other times
  • Be enthusiastic about the weekend football game but tare your authorities up and down at the water cooler
  • Say high to your workplace friends or the "in crowd" and snub the people you know nothing about
  • Get upset over a poor performance review and take a box of pens or a stapler home
  • Complain about your co-worker and sneak to the back of the room when a volunteer is needed
I could go on and on but I think you get the point. Employees leave poor managers, rarely bad companies. One of the most destructive workplace forces is inconsistent examples.

A local law enforcement agency made some policy changes and implemented more people skills training with their officers. One emphasis was to improve individual conduct. Do you want to hear and interesting fact?

One of the results they experienced was a decrease in the crime rate. How can an officer-focused training program impact the general public. I will tell you! Because the public respects authority more when that authority follows its own rules. When law enforcement officers break the laws they uphold the public mocks their authority and takes up an offense. They actually feel more justified to break the law themselves.

Why would citizens, as well as employees, think they were owed anything? Come back again!

Sunday, October 12, 2008

Better To Be Consistently Bad Than Inconsistently Good

Let me share an analogy! This is near and dear to my heart since it remains fresh in my mind even after almost 20 years.

Have you ever played baseball (or fast-pitch softball) with an inconsistent umpire behind the plate? It is very frustrating when a pitch up at your chin is a strike one time and a ball another time. As a batter you dread going to the plate. Why? Because you just don't know what to do next.

I would have preferred that the umpire always called pitches at my chin a strike than occasionally. The problem with "occasionally" is you just never know if the next one will be it.
The advantage with always (another word for consistently) is I could adjust my swing if I know in advance. When I had an inconsistent umpire I couldn't wait for the game to be over.

There are employees all over the business world who cannot wait to leave their manager because of inconsistency. They say nothing to an employee that is routinely late and nail another person that is late one time. There are just too many examples of this to list in this already long post so I will create another on specific inconsistencies.

There are also many teenagers out there that can't wait till they turn 18 so they can leave home (the game) because they are so frustrated with inconsistent parents. We are strict one day and easy going the next. We point out everything they do wrong and rarely, if ever, point out what they did right.

Lets talk more about specific workplace inconsistencies next time.

Sunday, October 5, 2008

You Can Teach an Old Dog New Tricks



I am 47 years old and I am learning character every day. Let me give you an example:

My daily character pop quiz happens behind the steering wheel of my car. First, I must explain that one of my biggest weaknesses is the lack of patience. This fault causes me trouble when I get behind a slow driver in the left lane.

Some drivers just seem oblivious to their environment. "Can't you see the cars passing you on the right?", yet they just keep on smelling the roses not even aware there is a rear-view mirror in the car.

When I finally have the opportunity to pass this person many times I have the option of signaling them, a non-verbal communication, if you get my drift. Let me share what keeps me from doing what I seriously want to do.

It is the overwhelming fear that this person will be seated in the front row of my next "character" session. I ask you, would you hear one word of my presentation if you had seen me gesture (no need to get specific, just know the gesture is one of disgust) earlier that day? No, you could not hear what I was saying over the loud roar of what I DID.

There is a saying "Your Walk Talks and Your Talk Talks, but Your Walk talks Louder than Your Talk Talks." How true that statement is.

So, thinking about what I do for a living, matching my actions with my words, and trying to raise three kids (now in their 20"s and late teens), and avoiding hypocrisy, especially for my presentations, makes me change my behavioral direction.

I plan to share more about the walk matching the talk next time.

Tuesday, September 30, 2008

Why Are There So Many Poor Managers & Supervisors?

... because their leader does not know what they are doing!

So often I find myself talking with, presenting to, emailing, or training leaders that have some of the following issues:
  • Poor attitudes
  • Afraid to speak up, especially in a group
  • Sit in training with arms folded over chest
  • Poor communications with everyone (even family members)
  • Do not participate (group discussion, training exercises, etc.)
  • Not happy to be anywhere
When I come across these managers my thought quickly runs to the question, WHO IS YOUR LEADER?

I am amazed that so-called leaders would select someone to manage people if they are struggling with any of these problems. Here is a quote from an excellent book, "First, Break all the Rules" published by the Gallup organization.

"A manager has got to remember that he is on a stage every day. His people are watching him. Everything he does, everything he says, and the way he says it, sends off clues to his employees. These clues affect performance. So never forget you are on that stage. Talented employees need great managers. They may join a company because of its charismatic leaders, its generous benefits, and its world-class training programs, but how long that employee stays and how productive he is while he is there is determined by his relationship with his immediate supervisor."

What these managers and supervisors need more than anything is a better leader themselves.

Tuesday, September 23, 2008

The Power of Encouragement

I am a walking, talking example that encouragement goes a lot farther then we think.

Growing up in a New Jersey State Troopers home my dad rarely, if ever, encouraged me. It was always clean up your room, you throw like a girl, what did I tell you about cutting the grass, shut the refrigerator door, can't you keep a job. Sometimes I hated going home.

My parents divorced when I was 13 and sometimes I would stay out late at night or over a friends house. When I was 19 I decided to join the USAF. Four years into my enlistment I volunteered to become a drill sergeant in boot camp.

You see, my background leans toward discouragement! JUST ASK MY KIDS!

Even knowing how it feels to receive discouragement I still struggle. I have had to work at this on a daily basis, heck, minute-by-minute is more like it. It is so easy to focus on what other people do wrong and what we do right. The very opposite needs to happen in order to build strong relationships.

We must admire the right choices other people make and expect ourselves to make better choices.

Fortunately I have a wife that can point my blind spots out. Oh do I have blind spots! How do I fight the natural tendency to be critical? Is it possible for someone with my background to change?

More to follow!

Wednesday, September 17, 2008

The Do's and Don'ts - Continued

Here are somethings that are sure to destroy relationships!
  • Never say anything encouraging
  • Always point out what they do wrong
  • Fail to evaluate their performance (too uncomfortable) or never tell them how to improve
  • Believe you have all the answers
  • I have what I need to lead
  • I don't need help
Be inconsistent in the things you say and do. Here are some critical ways to be INCONSISTENT
  • Send mixed signals (nasty one day, nice as pie the next)
  • Treat your friends (buddies) one way and everyone else another way
  • Try to hide your character flaws
  • Say one thing and do another
People are attracted to positive people and repelled by negativity. The number one reason people leave jobs is because the do not feel appreciated.

Do you want to know the best way to tell your people, BE PERFECT, what is wrong with you? Always point out what they do wrong.

Now go, tell someone you appreciate them, tell them how much you appreciate their ________. (fill in the blank)

Wednesday, September 10, 2008

The Do's and Don'ts of Workplace Relationships

Building strong workplace relationships is hard work. Unfortunately, one wrong move can send your hard work back many months if not years.

Here are some tips to help start the process:
  • Learn what interests and hobbies they enjoy.
  • Find out the dynamics of their family (married? children? where they live? etc.
Learn to ask questions:
  • What are their goals in life?
  • What do they hope to be doing in 5 years?
  • What brings them the most enjoyment?
  • What are their strengths? Weaknesses?
This may take some time but every second is worth it. Once built, a strong relationship can withstand the storms of adversity. Don't think the storms are far away and won't effect you, or you might plan on riding the storm out hoping for minimal damage.

That is not how it works. More to follow!

Tuesday, September 2, 2008

Typical Managers Today

There are many managers today that have no clue about building relationships. They are usually the ones with poor communication skills. Here is typical manager and how he deals with a problem.

Bill (picked this name out of a hat) manages 18 people. One of Bill's employees, Mary (another pick), comes to work late just about every other day. Everyone else is punctual and if ever, they are rarely late.

How does Bill deal with Mary? He writes a memo out to the entire team reminding them of the company policy regarding coming to work on time. Bill even cuts and pastes the policy into his memo and sends it out to the group.

Forget what Mary thinks about this memo. How do you think the rest feel when they receive this document? I am willing to bet they are going looking at the local want ads or visiting the online job placement sites.

We are very good at avoiding conflicts. Running towards the battle is not our natural reaction. Not having a good relationship with a person makes facing the problem even harder. If Bill had been developing a solid relationship with Mary he could have avoided upsetting everyone else.

Next post I will share some of the "does and don't s" of building lasting workplace relationships.

Saturday, August 23, 2008

Building Strong Relationships

I have the privilege of training many people around the world. I like to ask them "what are relationships built on?" Almost without fail the response is "trust."

I say yes to building trust but I believe there is something even more foundational to trust. It is a key building block to establishing a trusting relationship.

Communications! Did you know that one of the first targets in war is the communication lines. If you can successfully cut them off it will seriously decrease the enemy's ability to respond to attacks both on the defense and offense. Closer home the source of many troubled marriages is poor communications. Sometimes it is so bad there is no communication.

It's like the husband and wife that are arguing. (None of you reading my blog has ever argued with their spouses, have they?) The husband realizes that he has to wake at 4:30am to catch a flight. He decides to write a note to his wife and leave it on her pillow. It says "please wake me at 4:30am to catch a flight." As morning comes he is awakened to the bright sun, he hops out of bed to find his wife when he sees a note on his night stand. It says, "It's 4:30am, GET UP!

How about "ASAP"? Do you use this acronym? What exactly does this mean? In these same groups I ask this very question. I hear everything from "now" to "sometime this week." There just does not seem to be any explanation as to what this really means.

Well, this post is already too long and I am too tired so come back and read more.

Friday, August 15, 2008

What the World Revolves Around!

There is something in this world that we cannot escape, it causes the greatest amount of pressure. Sadly it is also the most neglected subject in management circles?

I know, what am I talking about?

"Relationships" They are everywhere! As the heading of this blog clearly states, great leaders MUST build strong relationships. There is no running from this simple fact. Leadership potential is directly proportional to a persons ability to build relationships.

I am not just talking about workplace relationships. Coach John Wooden (Hall of Fame NCAA Basketball Coach) is a great example of this basic human principle. He cared more about what his players did off the court then what they did on the court. His goal? Develop great men!

He desired to see his men as great sons, brothers, neighbors, workers, citizens, and fathers. He knew if the coaching staff accomplished this a powerful by-product would be a great basketball player. More business leaders need to understand this and treat their employees in an entirely different manner. Their goal should be to help their people reach their full potential.

Horribly, many managers today are not only poor relationship builders, they are actually relationship destroyers. For more information on Coach Wooden's philosophy, go to coachwooden.com.

Next? Some workplace relationship building steps that you can start today.

Tuesday, August 12, 2008

3 Steps of Encouragement

A foundational corner stone of encouragement should be focusing on good character verses good skill or achievement. Please don't misunderstand, recognizing achievement is fine but that should not be the emphasis. Here is a typical achievement recognition:
“Good job! I’m glad you were able to handle that irate customer. We need the sales volume.”

Here is the same situation but with character emphasized:
“I appreciate your patience in dealing with that irate customer. You took the time to properly resolve a difficult situation. That was a good example to me. I am reminded that it is easier to keep a customer than to find a new one. Thank you!”
Character First! has a saying that I think brings this home.
"Expect good character from yourself and admire it in other people."
Let me share with you the three steps of encouragement that we teach in our Basic Implementation Seminar. In order for our commendation to fulfill its purpose all three steps must be included.

1. Definition - use the character qualities definition. This helps to intentify a specific quality and reinforce the understanding of its meaning. In the above example it was patience. Character First! has written each definition to be simple and yet practical. Take a look at this handy PDF of 49 traits.

2. Illustration - explain the specific way the principle was demonstrated. This is important so others learn what it takes to live out that character quality.

3. Benefit - this is very important. Here you will want to share how their action benefited you, the company, and even the customer. I happen to think this is what makes the recipient feel the best.

We call these three steps the DIB process. Definition, Illustration, Benefit! So go out today and DIB someone. It will revolutionize your relationships.

Saturday, August 9, 2008

Improve Morale - Part 2

Maybe I should spend some time sharing the foundation of effective encouragement. I would like to start with a simple question, what should we be encouraging?

The most effective support we can give others is the positive reinforcement of “good character.” You might want to think of character as right choices. What is good character? Good character is the inward motivation to do the right thing in every circumstance. For a more comprehensive look at what character is click on Character Defined.

Celebrating a successful marketing campaign because it brought in millions in revenue is ok, but it is an achievement based recognition. What if some team members lied or exaggerated some facts? What if they were rude to subcontractors while establishing contract guidelines? We just celebrated poor decisions. We must discern the underlying character qualities that people demonstrating during the process. Someone may have still lied, but at least their conscience has been pricked if truthfulness was pointed out.

Come back as the next post will be about the simple three step process to effective and lasting encouragement. If you master these steps you will revolutionize your workplace, community, and family.

Friday, August 8, 2008

Improve Morale

How many times have you heard the complaint, "boy, morale sure is low"? I happen to think it is the number one problem plaguing leaders today. Unfortunately, in many organizations the source of the problem is the leader.

At the heart of poor relationships and low morale is the lack of appreciation. Over 70% of all people leaving a job claim the lack of appreciation or encouragement as a major reason.

I remember growing up in New Jersey and my dad (now a retired NJ State Trooper) was extremely good at pointing out everything I did wrong (he did not have to look long or hard) and never focusing on the things done right. This feeds the idea that he wanted me to be "perfect."

I am here to tell you, no one can live under the pressure of perfection. This is why so many young people are counting the days until they turn 18 and plan to leave home. Why do you think gangs are so successful? They encourage their members all the time. "Way to go man, great job, you stole those 10 radar detectors in one night, keep up the good work." Ladies and gentlemen, this is encouragement—unfortunately on the wrong thing: poor character.

A very powerful book on the subject of encouragement is The Carrot Principle written by Adrian Gostick and Chester Elton. We have featured this book on our Character Community Network.

I can easily write several more pages on this subject, but long entries might scare you away. I do, however, plan to write more on this subject and many others, so come back soon.

This is my first experiencing blogging, and I really look forward to your comments.